趣味学英语（16）：怎样让你说话更有魅力
说话着实是门技术活。
有些人说话让人听着总是那么舒服，而自己说话的时候，明明是激情澎湃、肺腑之言，朋友却经常对其置若罔闻。 这大概就是“会说话”和“不会说话”的区别了。
今天就一起来研究一下说话的艺术，如何赋予语言力量（how to speak powerfully）并且让声音真正成为我们人类独有的乐器。 说话的“七宗罪”
英国声音专家Julian Treasure通过自己的生活经验，发现了在生活中我们常犯的、并且应该努力避免（move away from）的7个说话上的错误，这就是说话的七宗罪（seven deadly sins of speaking）。 ? Gossip 流言蜚语
Speaking ill of someone who is not present. It's not a nice habit but we know perfectly well, the person gossiping, five minutes later, will be gossiping about us.
在背后说别人的坏话不是一个好习惯，但是我们十分确定，现在这个正在八卦的人5分钟之后就会将自己的八卦触角转移到我们身上。 speak ill of：说……的坏话 ? Judging 评头论足
We know people who are like this in conversation and it's very hard to listen to somebody if you know you are being judged and found wanting at the same time.
我们在谈话中遇到过这类人，如果你知道自己此时此刻正在被审视、评价，并且还不被看好，就很难听进去这个人的话。 ? & ? negativity and complaining 消极与抱怨
It's the national art of the UK. We complain about the weather, sport, about politics, about everything, but actually complaining is viral misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world.
抱怨可是英国的国民艺术。我们抱怨一切，包括天气、运动、政治等等。但是抱怨真是一种病毒传染性的痛苦与自怜。它可不是在向世界传递阳光和光明。 viral：病毒性的 ? Excuses借口
We've all met this guy. Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blamethrower. They just pass it to everybody else and don't take the responsibility for their actions, and again, hard to listen to someone who is being like that.
我们也遇到过这种人，或者我们自己就是这种人。有些人总是喜欢为自己找借口，他们永远把责任推到别人身上。当然，这种人的话人们也听不进去。
blamethrower: 指责他人的倾向
? Lying 撒谎与欺骗
For example, if I see something is really awesome, what do I call it? And then, the exaggeration becomes lying to us.
当我们看到一件特别令人惊艳的事物时，我们该如何形容呢？也许，后来过度的夸张就成为了谎言。 exaggeration：夸张 ? Dogmatism 固执己见
The confusion of facts with opinions. When those two things get conflated, you are listening to the wind. You know somebody is bombarding you with their opinions as if they were true. It's difficult to listen to that.
固执己见的人混淆了事实与想法的界线。当两者混到一起的时候，这样的话就像耳边风，对于事实知之甚少。当有些人想用自己的想法强加于你时，其实你很难听进去。 conflate: 结合，合并
bombard sb with sth:向…大量提供信息
上面说的这些说话的7个坏习惯，你中招了没？如果中招的话，需要改善了噢。 说话的艺术
Julian之后又阐述了4个打造powerful speaking的基础
（cornerstone)，他将其称为HAIL原则，当然啦，这里不是冰雹的意思，而是四个单词首字母的组合。
Being honest means being clear and straightforward. 诚实意味着直率、清楚地表达出你的想法。 Authenticity means standing in your own truth. 真实是指不掩饰地表明自己。
Integrity refers to acting what you say. 正直是指说到做到，信守诺言。 Love means wishing people well.
而爱则是指每一句话都是出于为了对方着想的考虑出发的。 诚实与爱的关系非常有趣。Julian说：
趣味学英语(16)：怎样让你说话更有魅力
