朋友，意味着什么？
友情中的行为
For Ashley, it was like this: She was sitting with a big group in the school lunchroom when she accidentally knocked her drink onto her lap. As word spread that it looked like Ashley had wet herself, the laughter began to mount. Then she noticed her best friend doing something strange. 对于Ashley来说，友谊是这样的：当她在学校挤满人的食堂里用餐时，突然她不小心把饮料打翻在大腿上，随后这尴尬的一幕被散播开来，有人开始发出不怀好意的窃笑。这时她发现她最好的朋友在干一件古怪的事情。
\在自己身上”Ashley说。
True friendship is hard to find, Ashley says. But she knows it when she sees it. And so do many of you. We asked our readers what it takes to be a good friend. The responses poured in — more than 5,000 of you shared your thoughts on friendship.真正的友情很难被察觉。Ashley这样说道，但是当她看到上面的一幕时她却真切的感受到了友情是什么。也许各位读者也一样，于是我们向读者们询问了这样一个问
题：是什么成就了友情？超过5000名读者向我们分享了他们的见解。
For some, the defining moments of friendship were profound, such as the soulmate who helps you through the grief of losing a family member or camps out in your hospital room when you're sick. For others, it's smaller gestures that loom large — the friend who talks for hours when you're feeling alone, even if it means going over on his cell phone minutes; the one who helps you with your homework, even when she hasn't done her own; or the friend who helps you search for your retainer, even when it means going through the garbage from the school lunch.在某些特定的时刻，友情是能够让我们真切感受到的，比如说：帮助你渡过丧亲之痛的好友；当你生病时，在病房里守护你的死党。还有那些看似虽小却能够触动我们心灵的事情：即便会耽误很多时间，却还是在你感到孤独的时候听你倒了几个小时的苦水；自己作业还没完成，却硬是要辅导你的那个家伙；或者帮你一起找牙套，即便此牙套很有可能和学校午餐一起进了垃圾桶。 What Friends Do for You 朋友为你做的
Big or small, it's actions that seem to count the most in friendship. In a time when we can chat effortlessly by text and IM, talk is getting cheaper. Many of you believe that the evidence of true friends is what they do to show their loyalty, honesty, trustworthiness, or willingness to make a sacrifice when you need help.这些或大或小的事情都能让友情更加深厚。当我们随时都能用短信或者即时通讯的手段和别人交流时——即使这种交流不那么重要，交谈已经开始显得廉价了。很多人更愿意他们的朋友用实际行动来显示他们是忠诚的；诚实的；值得信赖的以及当你需要帮助时，能够无私地作出牺牲。
Kaitlin, 14, told us about a friend who took the blame for her when she got in a fight at school. Her friend was suspended for 10 days. And Marissa, 16, said she discovered the difference between a close friend and casual friend on a school trip to California.
14岁的Kaitlin告诉我们，有一次她卷入了学校的斗殴事件中，而她的朋友代她受了惩罚：关禁闭10天。还有16岁的Marissa说她在一次去加州的学校旅行中发现了亲密朋友和普通朋友的区别。
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hold my hair back as I became the Exorcist,\\get off the floor and clean it up.\ “我那时感觉恶心想呕吐，我的那个朋友跟着我跑进洗手间，当我狂吐不止的时候是她帮我托着头发，而另外那些“朋友”为了下楼梯和为了把楼梯清理干净对着我大声吼叫。
What You Do for Friends 你为朋友做的
It works both ways: Nearly three quarters of the people who wrote to us said they do as much for their friends as their friends do for them. Sometimes the most treasured acts of friendship are those for which you expect to get nothing in return, not even credit for a good deed.在写信给我们的人中大约有四分之三的人觉得友情是双向的：他们为朋友所作的和朋友为他们所做的一样多。但有时友情中最宝贵是不计回报的付出——即便是丰厚回报的许诺也不需要。
\date my ex — without ever telling her that I was against it,\
Rae'Johne, 14, said.
“我为朋友做过的最伟大的事情是：我撮合了她和我的前男友。即便心里很反对，但也没有告诉她。”14岁的Rae’Johne说。 Elaina, 15, remembers the day she went clothes shopping with her best friend, who is overweight. The saleslady was being rude to her friend because there was so little in her size and nothing fit quite right.15岁的Elaina还记得那天和她最好的朋友去逛服装店，她的朋友比较“丰满”，由于这一特点她的朋友招致了女店员的无礼对待——因为这个服装店里根本没有她能穿下的衣服。
Elaina is proud of how she helped her friend that day. \had like an armful of clothes for myself (and may I add these clothes were to DIE for!) and I put all my clothes back and said, 'I don't like what they have in here, why don't we go somewhere with better clothes, not these cheap ones.'\至今仍对那天她如何为朋友解围的举动深感自豪。“我捧了一堆衣服去试穿（真的是巨多的一堆），然后我把它们扔到一边说：‘他们这儿的便宜货我没一件喜欢，不如我们去别的地方找点更好的。’”
朋友，意味着什么
