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During a research experiment a marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank.
在一个研究实验中,一个海洋生物学家把一条鲨鱼放进一个大的水箱中,然后投放了一些小的诱饵鱼进去。
As you would expect, the shark quickly swam around the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
你可能已经预料到了,鲨鱼快速地在水箱里四处游动,攻击并吃掉了那些较小的鱼。
The marine biologist then inserted a strong piece of clear fiberglass into the tank, creating two separate partitions. She then put the shark on one side of the fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other.
然后海洋生物学家将一面强韧的透明纤维玻璃插入到容器中,创建了两个单独的分区。然后,她把鲨鱼放在纤维玻璃的一边,另一边是一组新的诱饵鱼。 Again, the shark quickly attacked. This time, however, the shark slammed into the fiberglass divider and bounced off. Undeterred, the shark kept repeating this behavior every few minutes to no avail. Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around unharmed in the second partition. Eventually, about an hour into the experiment, the shark gave up.
再次,鲨鱼迅速攻击。然而,这一次,鲨鱼撞上了玻璃纤维隔板并被弹了回来。每隔几分钟,鲨鱼就不信邪地重复这徒劳的行为。同时,那些作为诱饵的鱼在另一个区域里毫发无伤地游来游去。最后,经过大约一个小时的实验,鲨鱼放弃了。 This experiment was repeated several dozen times over the next few weeks. Each time, the shark got less aggressive and made fewer attempts to attack the bait fish, until eventually the shark got tired of hitting the fiberglass divider and simply stopped attacking altogether.
在接下来的几个星期里,这个实验重复了几十次。每一次,鲨鱼的攻击性都变得
更弱,并较少尝试攻击诱饵鱼,直到最终鲨鱼厌倦了冲击纤维玻璃隔板,并完全停止攻击。
The marine biologist then removed the fiberglass divider, but the shark didn’t attack. The shark was trained to believe a barrier existed between it and the bait fish, so the bait fish swam wherever they wished, free from harm.
海洋生物学家然后拿走了纤维玻璃隔板,但鲨鱼没有攻击。鲨鱼被训练得相信了它和诱饵之间存在一道屏障,所以鱼儿游到任何地方,都不会受伤害。 The moral: Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stop trying. Like the shark in the story, we believe that because we were unsuccessful in the past, we will always be unsuccessful. In other words, we continue to see a barrier in our heads, even when no ‘real’ barrier exists between where we are and where we want to go.
寓意:我们中的许多人,在经历挫折和失败后,会从情感上选择放弃,并停止尝试。好比这个故事中的鲨鱼,因为过去失败过,所以就觉得永远不会成功。换句话说,我们经常会在我们的脑中看到一个障碍,即使我们所在的位置和我们想要达到的位置之间并没有“真正的”障碍。
我决定从此过上幸福的生活
It was many years ago. I was a young dad sitting on the couch reading a fairy tale to my little girl. She sat next to me with her head on my arm as I told the tale. When it came to the end I finished with those famous words: \they lived happily ever after.\As I looked over to her with her wavy, brown hair and big, innocent eyes I could see the smile on her face and I never wanted it to end. It dawned on me then that the ending of the book was what I wanted for her. I wanted her to \ever after.\
很多年前我还是个年轻的爸爸,坐在沙发上给小女儿讲童话故事。她坐在我身边,头枕在我胳膊上听我讲故事。故事的最后我用那句经典的话作结束语:“从此他们过上了幸福的生活。”我看着她,她有着卷曲的棕色头发和大大的、天真的眼睛,我能从她的脸上看到微笑,我希望能永远这样看着她。那时我明白了故事的结尾也是我对她的期望,我希望她“从此过上幸福的生活。”
Still, deep in my heart I knew that this couldn't always be so. I knew that there would be times when her heart was broken. I knew there would be times when she cried in
grief and I couldn't comfort her. I knew there would be times when all she felt was fear, sadness, sorrow, and despair. As I stroked her hair and smiled at her I hoped that those times would be brief and that she would have joy in her life more often than not. Living happily ever after, though, seemed out of the question.
然而内心深处我知道现实并非总能如我所愿。我知道有时她会伤心;我知道有时她会伤心地哭泣,而我却不能给她安慰;我知道有时她只会感到恐惧、伤心、懊悔和绝望。我抚摸着她的头发,对她微笑,我希望那些时刻都能很快过去,希望她的生活中更多的是快乐,然而,从此过上幸福生活似乎是不可能的。
It took me a lot of years to realize that it IS possible to live happily ever after. You just have to do it \the end of your journey. Happiness isn't something dependent on what life hands you. Happiness is something you create in your life choice by choice and day by day. 很多年以后我才意识到从此过上幸福生活是可以实现的。你只需要“认真过好每一天”。你看到的幸福并非你人生旅程最终的奖励,幸福不是取决于生活赐予你什么,而是你日复一日通过一个个选择在生活中创造出来的。
The truth is happiness comes when you love. Love is a gift from God. It is love that mends broken hearts. It is love that heals grief. It is love that gives us joy. Choose to \
事实是幸福就是付出爱时的体验,爱是上帝恩赐的礼物。只有爱才能修复受伤的心灵;只有爱才能抚平伤痛;只有爱才能给我们带来快乐。选择“从此过上幸福的生活,过好每一天。”
土豆、鸡蛋与咖啡豆的哲理
Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it.
从前,女儿向父亲抱怨道,她的人生苦不堪言,她不知道如何继续生活下去。 She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. 她厌倦了一直奋斗挣扎。
It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed. 仿佛解决了一个问题,立刻就会出现另一个问题。 Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. 做厨师的父亲把她带到厨房里。
He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. 他分别往三口锅里添上了水,并放到高火上煮。
Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second