3. Sleeping. Time for bed: 11pm; time to get up: 6:30am except on weekends.
Text 2
A Marriage Agreement (Part Two)
John: Linda, do you spend a lot of time checking to see if the other person is following the rules Arguing Linda: No, not at all.
Tom: A lot of couples argue because they don't understand each other's expectations. I think we spend less time arguing than most couples because we both know what the other person expects. John: What happens if one of you breaks a rule Tom: Well, that's in Article 13 of our agreement.
John: Is it Oh yes, Article 13: Breaking Rules. \you break a rule, you must apologize and do something nice for the other person to make it up.\Linda: Yeah, like last time Tom broke the rule of driving. John: What's the rule
Linda: The rule is we must ask for directions if we are driving and get lost for more than five minutes. John: What happened
Tom: We were driving to a friend's wedding, and we got lost. Linda wanted to stop at a gas station to ask for directions, but I thought I could figure it out.
Linda: Then we drove forty miles in the wrong direction and ended up being late for the wedding.
Tom: So I took her out to dinner. I knew what I should do to apologize. John: That's very important, I think, knowing how to apologize. By the way, do you plan to update your agreement at all What if things change in your life and a rule doesn't work anymore Linda: We've thought about that too. Article 14 states that we must review this agreement once a year and make necessary changes.
John: Well, it was really nice talking to you both. Thank you very much for your time.
Tom & Linda: Thank you.
Exercise 1: 1. F Statements:
1. Tom and Linda never argue because they both know what the other person expects.
2. Once Tom broke Article 14 and apologized to Linda by taking her out to dinner. 3. If some of the rules in the marriage agreement become outdated, changes
will be made to update them.
4. It seems that both Tom and Linda are satisfied with their marriage agreement.
Exercise 2:
1. One rule says that if they get lost for more than five minutes when they are driving, they must stop and ask for directions. 2. Once Tom and Linda got lost when they were driving to a friend's wedding. 3. Linda wanted to stop at a gas station to ask the way, but Tom thought he could figure it out.
4. As a result, they were late for the wedding because they went in the wrong direction for forty miles.
Part C
A Perfect Match
Are you looking for a good relationship with someone special What type of person is the best person for you Is it the person with the highest IQ Is it the most beautiful or most handsome person How about the richest person or the most ambitious Is your ideal partner the most traditional or the most modern person Is he or she the person most like you, or most unlike you The answer, psychologists say, is none of the above. Why Because they are all extremes. In a number of research studies, psychologists asked couples these questions. The answers were clear. Most people are happy with moderation -- with partners who are not the most or the best (or the least or the worst). People are more comfortable with partners who are not so special.
The research showed several other important things. In a love relationship, two things can cause trouble. First, trouble happens when both people get angry quickly. This is not surprising. Second, trouble happens when people don't expect to change themselves in a relationship. Do you stay calm when you disagree with someone Are you ready to change yourself If you can tolerate disagreement and are willing to change, maybe you are ready for a serious relationship.
Exercise:
1. ...not so special/not extremes 2. a. ...get angry quickly b. ...change themselves...
Statements: 1. F 2. T 3. T 4. F 5. T 6. T
1. The passage implies that the perfect match for you is a person who is most unlike you.
2. The author argues that the most beautiful or most handsome person may not be your perfect partner.
3. Moderate person, that is, the partners who are not the most or the best can be your perfect match.
4. The research showed that an extreme love relationship between the two can cause trouble.
5. The passage states that the anger is one of the causes that lead to the breakup of a love relationship.
6. The perfect match lies in the people's attitudes to tolerate disagreement and be willing to change in a relationship.
Part D
Husbands and Wives Don't See Things Alike
Let's face it -- husbands and wives just don't see things alike. Take TV remote controls, for example. I'm a channel-grazer. When I watch the news, I flip back and forth through four different networks.
%understand why she has no interest in other channels. After all, she is a woman who wants to know everything going on in the neighborhood and among all the relatives. Just one button away might be an interesting program on How to Lose Fifty Pounds by Eating Chocolate Sundaes or How to Understand Weird Husbands. But, no, she won't change channels, not even if she dislikes the program she's watching.
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\ Differences. No right or wrong, just differences.
\first law of civilization,\said an old philosopher, \to let people be different.\
I don't need to convert my wife to my ways, and she doesn't try to make me be like her. We simply take turns monitoring the remote control.
Exercise:
1. He frequently changes channels. 2. No. It makes her very angry.
3. She sticks to one channel even if she doesn’t like it. 4. They take turns monitoring the remote control.
5. How everything is going on in the neighborhood and among all their relatives.
6. No. Because, as one philosopher puts it, “The first law of
civilization is to let people be different.” 7.
Statements:
1. The major difference between the speaker and his wife is their TV viewing habits.
2. According to the speaker, he is more interested in talk shows while his wife is more interested in news programs.
3. The wife seems to be more weird than the husband is.
4. The speaker and his wife usually take turns working the remote control when they watch television.
5. It can be inferred that women are generally more tolerant than men of their spouse's differences.
6. The speaker and his wife maintain peace not by changing each other but by tolerance.
Unit 4
Part B
Text 1
Being a Police Officer Is a Stressful Job
Interviewer: Welcome to our program, Sam. Sam: Thank you.
Interviewer: Sam, how long have you been a police officer Sam: I've been a police officer for thirty years.
Interviewer: Thirty years. And you've had different types of assignments on the police force, I guess.
Sam: Yeah, I've done everything from patrol to undercover work to detective work, and now I'm supervising investigations. Interviewer: Sam, I think most people would say that being a police officer is a very stressful job. Would you agree
Sam: Yes, it's definitely a stressful job. But it depends on your assignment.
Interviewer: So, what's probably the most stressful assignment you can have
Sam: I'd say patrol is the most stressful assignment. Interviewer: That's interesting! In what way
Sam: Well, I guess the biggest part of the stress is the fear factor -- the fear of the unknown.
Interviewer: What do you mean, Sam
Sam: Well, in patrol work, you don't know from moment to moment who you are talking to or what their reaction is going to be to justify your
presence. Let's say, for example, a patrol officer stops someone for a traffic violation. It seems as though that would be a very low-stress situation.
Interviewer: Yes, it is a very low-stress situation.
Sam: But the truth is, there are more police officers injured during a routine stop.
Interviewer: Really
Sam: Really! That's why all police officers are taught from the very beginning to be aware of their surroundings. People back over policemen, people shoot policemen, people jump out at policemen -- different kinds of things. So that's probably the most stressful time.
Interviewer: I see. Let's take a break and then we'll move on to our next topic.
Sam: All right.
Exercise 1: 1. d 2. c Questions:
1. What's the relationship between the two speakers 2. What does Sam mainly talk about 3. What do you know about Sam
Exercise 2:
Sam has been a police officer for 30 years. He has done everything from patrol to undercover work. He has also done detective work and now he is supervising investigations.
Sam thinks being a police officer is a very stressful job, but it depends on the assignment one has. In his opinion the biggest pert of the stress is the fear of the unknown and patrol is the most stressful assignment.
Text 2
Stress Reducers
Interviewer: Sam, you've talked about the police officers' stressful time. Now let's move on to the next topic. So far as I know, there's a connection between stress and illness. Do you think that there's a higher percentage of illness among police officers than in the general population I mean, do they get more colds or anything Is this really true
Sam: Yes, it is, and the stress level not only manifests itself in daily health -- whether or not you've feeling well on any given day. It also manifests itself in things like ulcers, heart disease -- police